Hello, kids. Sorry I haven’t been around. We all know I’m not so good at keeping up with this lately. It isn’t I don’t want to. Sometimes I just don’t have anything to say but also I haven’t wanted to drive to the park to write. Still haven’t gotten over the accident in May and I really haven’t enjoyed driving since.
I tell you this because it all plays together with everything else going on.
Everyone keeps asking how’s school going. I answer enthusiastically, saying how great it’s going, how much I love my classes. I’m still lying and Chris (and now you) is (are) the only one who knows the truth. I wouldn’t know how great my classes were last semester because I didn’t really get to go and I failed the whole semester. Yep, I failed every class.
The first dilemma was my car has some issues at first. Then I was too scared to drive the 45-60 minute drive to school. Then don’t forget about the sweet headaches which still plague me all the time.
Last semester was a bust. It stinks because I REALLY want to go to school. I do. I want to succeed and I want to feel like I have actually accomplished something since the stupid mtbi happened. Yet it all feels so far out of reach.
I don’t tell people the truth because I don’t want to seem like a failure. I don’t want to let people down. I don’t want people to thinking not trying; because I really am. The worse I feel though, less gets done which leads to being depressed. It’s a vicious cycle.
On January 4th, I started a 14 day art & architecture class. I was stoked. I had studied this stuff before so there was no way it was going to be hard. You would think. I was wrong. The first week of class was great. I finished all my assignments on time and I had a wonderful grade. One assignment took longer than it was supposed to and I turned it in the day before it was due. Then we had a BIG project.
I was so excited for the project. I already knew my topic and had my books open to the pages, ready to go. I just stared. I stared at the computer monitor, for hours. I know it seems impossible but I seriously sat there staring for hours. It was almost like writer’s block but my brain froze. I couldn’t think of anything. I couldn’t read the books and the web page and put it into my own words on the computer. Needless to say the project is due in 2 hours and I am writing this.
You’re probably thinking to yourself I could be doing it right now. Here’s the thing. It consists of two 1,000 word essays and two 500 word essays. There’s no way it could get finished when I’m still stuck on the first sentence of the first essay.
This comes easy. This is me pouring out my soul and not staring at a computer screen or books. I can’t sit and stare at words. I don’t even really read these when I’m done. I proofread once or twice and it’s done. I can’t stare at words for a long period of time.
Here’s where this is a problem. My next semester started yesterday, four classes. Only one class is in person and the other three are online because I don’t want to drive to the school more than once a week. When did I become such a wuss?
Now I am taking classes I know I will have a hard time with. I don’t have a choice though. Want to know why? Because it pays my bills, even if I fail. I have to go to school or work to survive. I have a hard time with both.
I have a hard time failing. I was never a failure until this happened. That’s why I was a successful soldier. Nearly 4 years and I still can’t accept who I am. I can’t accept I will not be able to always accompish what I want in life. I know I can’t be a soldier or a police officer. I know I can’t go out and play summer sports. Now I don’t know if I can fully work and/or go to school.
Don’t read me wrong. I don’t HATE my life. I have a super great boyfriend who holds me when I’m crying and tells me I will never let him down; he knows I’m trying. We have a lot of good times together. He makes the days worth living when just over a year ago, I didn’t think they were.
He keeps my brain busy and less stressed out. The past 3 months, I didn’t go to class. I still got paid to fail, luckily, so my bills were paid but I didn’t do much of anything. While to some it seems like a dream come true, I was miserable. I’m a worker bee. I hate sitting around; but school hurt and working did too.
After the car accident in May, I only went to work a total of two weeks. My head hurt looking at the screen all the time. What the heck do I do? How am I supposed to have a life and take care of things when my head hurts all the time? I know people tell me to suck it up. But everyone knows what a headache is like. Think about that. Make it a 7 or even an 8 and imagine it every day. It’s not easy to suck it up.
I’ve had ankle surgery, been stabbed in the hand and I always went full soldier. I didn’t care. I pushed through. That’s what soldiers do. I can’t push through these. I can take pain, but not this. I often find myself too nauseous and hurting too bad to get out of bed.
A bonus is I have learned to truly take advantage of the good days. Chris got me a basketball for Christmas so I’ve gone out and played with him, once. I can’t let the good days pass me by. They are rare. I have to rock them. Sometimes on good days, I joke about going snowboarding or playing hockey. He won’t let me. He knows I will hurt myself. I don’t hold back at all when it comes to sports.
That’s the person I am on the inside. I’m the girl who loaded a military truck by herself for the field for two weeks because people were complaining and going to slow. I’m the girl who with a cast on her leg stood in formation because it’s where I belonged. I’m the girl who jumped out of a van and ran to a soldier when they needed help, not long after my ankle surgery (after I had just finished the obstacle course myself). I’m the girl who kept pushing to get deployed after I got my mtbi.
I’m truly blessed to have Chris. I won’t lie. He’s an amazing man who is truly understanding. With him, everything is fun. He even helped pick out the stupid hearing aid I need now on my right ear. His response was, “Even babies need hearing aids.” Seriously in love with my future husband. I just wish I could do more for him, contribute more.
Well that’s all for now, kids. I better get home and start on all the other homework. I at least have to make an effort. I am to into this semester to completely fail.
Take care and wear a helmet. Be safe in all you do.